Who's your Marriage Counselor: Where do you get your counsel from!
Just a thought before we begin!
As parents when our children need help making decisions, we would prefer that they come to us first and not to their friends. Why? because we love our children, and we know as parents we will give them the best possible advice.
As Christians Jesus is our guide, so before we make any decision He would prefer that we talk to Him first. Because He loves us, and will not steer us wrong.
A little home-work for marriages in distress:
1. The first thing that a Christian troubled marriage need is prayer, and a lot of it. Take the time to commit whatever it is that you both think is a problem. If it bothers you, then it's a problem.
Just simply learn to tell Jesus everything.
So Pray...Pray...Pray and pray some more. Before Jesus can begin to fix your marriage He requires a submissive heart. This first prayer, is not just to tell Jesus everything, but in the process you will learn submission. Because only when you submit to the will of Christ can He begin to work in your marriage.
Jesus top priority, was to remain in constant communication with His father while He was on earth. He reminds us in His word that we must pray without ceasing, and that we must always pray and not to faint.
As Christians don't take anything for granted, the devil is just waiting for you to make one wrong move.
Be reminded of what the bible says, the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy.
Don't give the devil any power over your marriage, don't allow him any access in.
First he steals your mind and before you know it, you'll be making your own decisions, without the approval of your Lord. This is considered walking in disobedience.
Disobedience, is one of the first downward step in any Christian marriage. Disobedience, stops you from hearing from God. Do not make any decisions without the approval of your Lord.
Don't live in regret because of disobedience to GOD.
Just like in regular life, people are not usually destroyed when they are being protected, it is when they are out by themselves. The devil pulls the same stunt, for him to destroy us, he has to get us away from Jesus first. Again, disobedience is the first trick the devil uses to pull us away from Christ.
He did it to Adam and Eve..What makes you think he won't do it to you too.
Once you are no longer under the protective banner of Jesus Christ anything can happen in your Christian marriage.
Disobedience, kills the passion and the love that comes from Christ. The love of Christ holds the marriage together, and if disobedience is found, it won't be long before everything is destroyed.
Disobedience closes the door to the voice of GOD. And when we can't hear His voice anymore, that is when we begin to make our own decisions.
In.... 1 Samuel 15
Saul was given specific instructions from the Lord, but he chose to disobey them, and in so doing, he stopped hearing from GOD. And because he stopped hearing from GOD, he made some terrible choices.
Christians, whenever you start to make your own decisions without consulting God, your marriage is in deep trouble.
Before we enter into Christian marriage we should already be familiar with the do's and don'ts, what's right and what's wrong.
Please don't get me wrong, marriage in itself is a learning experience. What I am referring to is the vow that we made to each other. Those spoken words should now become our bond. As Christians we should stand by our word.
Jesus did not back out when things got rough, but instead He prayed for strength to endure.
If you have entered into marriage and one person decide it's time to leave, then there is nothing you can do but ask GOD for grace and the strength to carry on.
My focus is, if both people want to make their marriage work, then please, go back to the source. Jesus He has all the right answers.
God made sure that King Saul had a guide, one who would honestly tell him the truth and guide him as God instructed.
We get our instructions from the Bible, our Teaches is the Holy Spirit, our guide is Jesus Christ.
Because King Saul did not listen and obeyed the instructions that was given to him from God, he became very miserable.
You too will be very miserable in your Christian marriage is you chose not to obey the voice of God.
Turn everything over to Jesus, your pain, your hurt, your struggles, sad days, blah days, times when you feel mis-understood, just everything and anything.
Let Jesus have the final say, stop trying to get the last word in.